Why It’s Good to Get Arrested

Why It’s Good to Get Arrested

October 11, 2018 marked the thirtieth anniversary of the day I was arrested. By 1988, AIDS diagnoses in the U.S. approached 100,000 and communities were devastated. The Republican government’s ignoring of the growing crisis led to the formation of Act Up, the direct...
Happy Groundhog Day

Happy Groundhog Day

In the film, Groundhog Day, the lead character, played with perfect disaffected snarkiness by Bill Murray, gets trapped living a single day over and over again. Every day is Groundhog Day; a cold, gray, mediocre one in Puxatawney, Pennsylvania. Each day, Murray steps...
The Heart, Ch’I, and Courage

The Heart, Ch’I, and Courage

The next quality that is central to the Mencian conception of heart is ch’i. (For those of you who are just joining this conversation, Mencius was a great Chinese Sage who lived and wrote 2300 years ago. Central to his philosophy was the notion of “heart.”...
The Wise Old Man at the End of the World

The Wise Old Man at the End of the World

Many years ago, when I was searching for the answer to life, I thought I’d find it by going to the end of the world. That was the instruction I found in all the stories. You climbed the mountain, found the guy with the long beard, and he’d give you the secret. You’d...
How Love Can Change the World

How Love Can Change the World

Martin Luther King said that, “Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy into a friend.” When we hear the President saying things that betray some of our most deeply-held values it is virtually impossible to feel love for him or want to be his friend. It...
The Universal Heart

The Universal Heart

As it is the new year, I am reminded of Mircea Eliade’s The Myth of the Eternal Return. In this book, the author explains that in ancient cultures, time was thought of as circular rather than linear, rotating on a yearly basis back to a primal, original moment,...
Why Men Get Bored of Sex

Why Men Get Bored of Sex

In my psychotherapy practice, guys of all ages complain that sooner or later they lose their mojo for their sex partner. They start off being able to do it three times a night, but before long they can barely find a good reason to get it on. They don’t really...
Why Can’t My Wife and My Mother Get Along?

Why Can’t My Wife and My Mother Get Along?

In the film “Bye Bye Birdie,” the character Albert, played by Dick Van Dyke, tells his mother that he has “plans” to marry his secretary, Rosie. When his mother hears this, she puts her head in the oven and tells her son to bury her in the front yard so Rosie can walk...